Whetstone-‘I have a partner, now what?’

    • When: 06/04/18
    • QIC: Reborn/Jester
    • The PAX: All Whetstone Partners - And those who want to be

So you just got paired up with a Whetstone partner…now what? Some partnerships will occur more naturally than others, don’t let this stop you from being consistent. If you happen to get stuck, pick a few of the questions below to discuss.

  • Agree to the three Ps
    • Proximity requires the Stone to physically meet with his Blade. While it is fine (good even) for them to also talk on the telephone and email, that is not a replacement for the physical meeting where they can look each other in the eye. Hard looks and straight talk (tempered by love) get results. That cannot be done virtually.
      • How will you ensure this occurs?
    • To be Purposeful, the meeting between the Stone and the Blade must be more than the kind of inconsequential pizza party a Club would have—it must be a Grinder with a particular Outcome in mind: the Acceleration of the Blade’s Preparedness. The Stone’s task within the Whetstone is to help the Blade get ready for the expected and be ready for the unexpected by both encouraging him to turn Pro and providing him with the Bricks he will need to build his own Guardrails. Just as a Workout should Accelerate the Q’s Fitness, a Grinder should Accelerate the Blade’s proper personal alignment.
      • Set an agenda to start with, this will help you stay on point.
    • There is no set rule for the periodicity of the Grinder. It must be frequent enough to be Effective but not so frequent that the Stone and Blade smother each other. This is something both men must determine through trial and error. However, because a Grinder (by design) is a Movement away from the Status Quo it will cause pain and it is man’s general hardwiring to avoid pain. As a result, the Stone must be deliberate to ensure periodicity. Otherwise, his Blade will drift away to something easier.
      • What cadence will you establish?
    • Get to know the other guys family
    • Stick to the 3 Fs
      • How and where are you posting?
      • How is your diet?
      • How are you growing in your faith?
    • How is your relationship with your wife?
    • What can I hold you accountable to? What two questions do you want me to ask you this week?
    • Establish trust and agree, that what’s discussed together will not be shared unless the other has agreed.

There is no script to follow for Whetstone relationships, be open and honest with each other and where you need accountability in your life.


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